Ep. 325 | Thank the Woman Who Got You Here

There’s a strange part of growth we don’t talk about enough.

We talk a lot about becoming the next version of ourselves. About building confidence, changing habits, thinking differently, making better choices, and creating a life that feels more aligned with who we want to be.

But becoming her doesn’t only mean gaining something.

Sometimes, it means letting something go.

In this episode, I share a simple moment from Pilates that reminded her how easily an old story can become a rule we live by. I had almost convinced myself not to go because mat Pilates was “harder,” my back might hurt, and getting down on the floor just wasn’t for me anymore.

Except none of that turned out to be true.

I went. I enjoyed it. And I would have regretted allowing an old story to make the decision for me.

That’s how so many of our beliefs work. They may have made sense once. They may have protected us, helped us cope, or carried us through a difficult season. But eventually, we have to ask whether the woman who needed those stories is still the woman we want making our decisions today.

Because the woman who got you through your hardest years may not be the woman who leads you into your happiest years.

That doesn’t mean rejecting who you were.

It means honoring her.

The younger version of you who was scared. The woman who didn’t have confidence yet. The woman who stayed, left, started over, survived heartbreak, numbed herself, people-pleased, overworked, overate, shut down, or did whatever she knew how to do to make it through.

She wasn’t trying to ruin your life.

She was trying to protect you with the tools she had.

And maybe instead of looking back at her with shame, the next step is simply saying:

Thank you. You got me here. But I can take it from here.

Growth isn’t always about adding more. Sometimes it’s subtraction—releasing perfection, guilt, resentment, old expectations, the need for everyone to approve of you, and the belief that rest or love or happiness must somehow be earned.

You can appreciate who you’ve been without asking her to lead the rest of your life.

And that is so much of the work inside Becoming Her: Volume 2.

Becoming Her isn’t about turning yourself into someone completely different. It’s about releasing the beliefs, patterns, expectations, and survival strategies that have kept you from fully living as the woman you already know you’re capable of being.

Enrollment for Becoming Her: Volume 2 is open now through August 28. If you’re ready to stop allowing old versions of yourself to make decisions for the life you’re creating now, this is your invitation.

Because the woman you were deserves your compassion.

The woman you are deserves your presence.

And the woman you’re becoming deserves your courage.

One thought. One choice. One brave step at a time.