Ever feel like you’re living by an invisible rulebook? The one that says be nice, don’t rock the boat, say yes even when you’re screaming no inside? That’s the “Good Girl” trap—and it comes at a cost.

In this episode, we’re breaking down what it really means to abandon yourself in the name of people-pleasing and perfectionism. From hiding your needs to shaping your choices around how others see you, we’ll dig into why this pattern feels so exhausting—and how to finally step out of it.

Because here’s the truth: loving others doesn’t mean losing yourself. You can show up with compassion and unapologetically own your voice, your boundaries, and your worth.

If you’re ready to trade the approval of others for the peace of being fully you, this conversation will feel like a permission slip you didn’t even know you needed.

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In this episode of Creating Her Best Life, we’re tackling a big myth: the idea that you need more motivation to get things done. Here’s the hard truth—waiting around for motivation to hit might actually be the thing that’s keeping you stuck.

We all know how it feels to wait for that burst of energy to get started, but here’s the catch—motivation is super unreliable. It comes and goes, and if you're waiting for it, you're probably going to keep quitting every time it dips. But what if I told you that you don’t need motivation? What you need is action.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing why taking small, imperfect steps—before your brain gives you permission—is the secret to creating motivation, not waiting for it. It’s not about making some huge life change overnight; it’s about getting started, even when things feel messy. Action will get the ball rolling and, guess what? Motivation will follow.

So, if you’ve been feeling stuck or waiting for the “perfect time” to start, this episod...

I keep meeting incredible women who look at themselves like they're broken puzzles missing pieces. Like they're somehow behind in this imaginary race we're all supposedly running. And honestly? It breaks my heart because I see you – and you are NOT a problem that needs solving.

In today's episode, we're diving deep into that question that might just change everything: "Who am I when I stop trying to fix myself?" Because here's what I know to be true – you're not broken. You're not behind. You're not some project that needs constant renovation.

You are a beautiful, unfolding story. And every chapter – even the messy, imperfect ones – belongs.

If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to optimize, improve, and "work on yourself" constantly, this one's for you. Let's explore what happens when we stop fixing and start living.

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In this episode, we tackle the tricky topic of expectations. Ever catch yourself expecting someone to just know what you want, only to be disappointed when they don’t? I dive into how holding onto these unspoken scripts can not only set others up to fail, but it also blinds us to the real beauty of who they truly are. The key? Sharing our expectations, so we can stop hoping they’ll just guess. Tune in for some real talk on how open communication can make relationships stronger and more authentic!

Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more dri...

If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind in life, this episode is your reminder: you’re not behind— you’re in the process. I'm breaking down the lies that come up when you start comparing your timeline to someone else’s highlight reel or some imaginary version of where you "should" be. That mindset only robs you of joy and either pushes you into burnout or holds you in place.

You’ll hear why your age isn’t a deadline, it’s actually your advantage. You’ll see how wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful, it means you’re alive and growing. And if you’ve been feeling stuck, we’ll talk about how getting curious can shift everything. Curiosity leads to clarity, and clarity fuels confidence. Let’s normalize the process and stop measuring progress with someone else’s ruler.

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In this episode, I'm diving into the subtle, silent habits that quietly sabotage your progress—the ones that don’t always look like self-sabotage on the surface. From overcommitting and procrastinating to doubting your own voice, these patterns keep you stuck in cycles that feel productive but lead nowhere. You’ll learn how to recognize the hidden ways you block your own breakthroughs, and what it really takes to shift into aligned, intentional momentum.

This is your lead-in to The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series happening this Saturday, June 14th, where we’ll take the conversation further and give you the tools to defeat self-sabotage for good.

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I used to think my relationship would get better if only my partner would change, be more present, more affectionate, more anything. But what I’ve learned is that real change started when I stopped focusing on what he wasn’t doing and started looking at how I was showing up.

In this episode, I’m sharing what it means to shift a relationship by shifting yourself. Not by shrinking or people-pleasing, but by growing, owning your part, and showing up differently—with more awareness, honesty, and intention. If you’ve ever felt stuck waiting for someone else to change, this one’s for you.

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Today’s episode is a little something special as we approach our 300th episode! The producers of Creating Her Best Life podcast have taken over the podcast this week and have handpicked a few of the most powerful, eye-opening moments from our last 100 episodes to share with you—moments that we know will give you the encouragement you need to keep moving forward, no matter where you’re at in your journey.

Whether you're looking to smash through self-doubt, find the courage to take that next big step, or just feel a little more connected to what truly matters, this episode is sure to have something that speaks to you.

So take a moment, get comfortable, and let these handpicked moments serve as your reminder that you’re not alone on this journey. We hope these insights fuel your next steps forward, inspire you, challenge you, and remind you that no matter where you are, you’ve got what it takes to keep going. Whether it’s a little inspiration or the nudge you needed to take that ne...

Ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut, like no matter what you do, the next step just feels impossible? I think we’ve all been there. But here's the thing: there's this quiet force called hope that has a way of sneaking in when we need it most. It’s not loud or in-your-face, but it’s powerful enough to keep us moving forward, even when we’re ready to throw in the towel.

In this episode, I'm diving into how hope works, and how it gets us through the tough times and keeps us going. I share what it really means to hold onto hope, and some simple ways you can bring more of it into your life, no matter what you’re facing. It’s not about waiting for big changes, it’s about finding strength in the small moments and believing better days are ahead.

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Sometimes life feels slow, like you’re stuck or falling behind. But this episode is a reminder: good things take time. The growth you can’t see—the deep, unseen work—is often the most important part. You’re not behind; you’re growing roots. And roots matter. Flowers don’t last without them. It’s easy to get caught up waiting for the visible bloom, but real strength and lasting change are built underground, in the quiet seasons. Trust that what’s coming is worth the wait.

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